I’m Kylie, a somatic sex coach for women reclaiming pleasure, desire, and aliveness.
You have done the work.
You’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts, tried to talk it through with friends and therapists. You are highly motivated and devoted, but you may still feel disconnected from your body, numb or flooded when intimacy is on the table, exhausted by "doing the work" and wondering why things have not shifted.
You are not broken.
Your disconnection from pleasure is not personal failure. We weren't taught how to listen to our bodies or honour our needs. We grew up in cultures that taught us to perform, to please, to push through, without realising how deeply this shapes our relationship with ourselves, our sexuality, and our eroticism.
But what if there is another way? What if your ‘work’ from here is doing less, not more?
A little about me.
I spent twenty years facilitating cultural transformation with activists, government and marginalised groups, learning to read power, hold complexity and uncertainty, and navigate the dynamics that shape how we relate to ourselves and each other.
For the past six years, I have brought this experience into the work I am most passionate about: supporting people - primarily women - to reclaim their bodies, their pleasure, and their sexual aliveness.
My approach integrates somatic sexology, process-oriented psychotherapy, and womb awakening, all body-based modalities that trust your body's intelligence and work with what is emerging for you, not from top down, prescriptive scripts.
I understand what it is like to feel disconnected, numb, and confused about why things are not working. I have lived with chronic pelvic pain and the ongoing aftermath of sexual trauma in my own body. I know in my bones that sexual awakening is possible, but it’s not one moment, not one method and not a neat linear path.
A little about you.
You might be feeling…
Disconnected from your body and your desire - Intimacy feels mechanical, like you are going through motions without truly being present.
Numb, stuck in your head, or unsure how to ask for what you want - You struggle to access desire or you have never quite known what turns you on.
Struggling to connect with your partner/s - You want more intimacy in your relationship and you know that reclaiming pleasure starts with you.
Exhausted from trying everything - You have explored so many approaches, and your not getting results. You are tired of quick strategies.
Longing to feel sensual and deeply orgasmic - You have a high dream to be a sensual woman, to feel joy, connection, and the possibility of being truly free.
You are ready for something deeper. A way to connect not only with pleasure, but with your whole, unique, authentic self.
There are many reasons you’re feeling this way.
We weren't taught how to be in our bodies:
Most of us grew up in families and communities that did not talk openly about sex, pleasure, or desire
We learned to disconnect to stay safe, to perform, to please, to manage other people's needs before our own
Our culture does not teach us how to slow down, listen to our bodies, or honour what we need
We carry particular harms in our bodies:
Sexual trauma that taught us that sensuality is not safe
Medical experiences where we were not listened to or our consent was not respected
Relational patterns that trained us to prioritise other people’s pleasure
It shows up as numbness, as tension, as shame, as confusion about what we want or how to ask for it. It shows up as chronic pain, as shutdown, as a feeling that there is something wrong.
But here is the truth: your body's responses are intelligent. Disconnection, numbness and tension are not failures. They are protective adaptations. And when we begin to understand and tend to these patterns with patience and care; safety and aliveness can return.
What does somatic sex coaching actually feel like?
We move at the pace of your body and your nervous system, not your inner critic!
There is no rush to get somewhere. Slow is not a flaw; it is part of the medicine. This is trauma informed practice.
What we work on together:
Understanding how your body responds to touch, arousal, and pleasure—so you can communicate what you want
Learning how to experience orgasm, or deepening your orgasmic capacity and pleasure range
Working through numbness, shame, or pain that is blocking your pleasure
Building new pathways to pleasure in your body, through breath, touch, awareness, and practice
Reconnecting with sensation and desire after trauma, pain, or long periods of disconnection
Understanding what turns you on, what turns you off, and what your body needs to feel safe enough to let go
This work invites you to gently unlearn what you were taught about your body, sex and your erotic imagination and to begin building a relationship with your sexuality that feels grounded, real, and authentic to you.
Is this a good fit for you?
Good Fit:
You are curious and ready to explore your inner landscape. You are self-reflective, open to learning, and willing to try new things. You understand that real change happens through consistent practice and embodied work, not overnight solutions. You are motivated, even if you are also exhausted, and you are ready to do less striving and more listening.
Not a Good Fit:
You are looking for someone to give you a formula that will "cure" your disconnection without the inner work or embodied practice it takes to create lasting change. You are not interested in slowing down or working at the pace of your body and have a singular focus on quick fixes.
Ready to begin?
I offer 1:1 somatic sex coaching sessions for women who are ready to reclaim their bodies, their desire, and their aliveness.
If something in you knows it is time to reconnect with your body and expand your relationship to pleasure, I would love to support you.
Together we will create space for you to soften, for your pleasure to expand, and for your connection to deepen, at your own pace and in your own way.
In our discovery call, we will talk about what is happening for you now, and what kind of erotic experiences you are longing for. From there, we will decide whether working together feels right.
"When I speak of the erotic...I speak of it as an assertion of the lifeforce of women; of that creative energy empowered, the knowledge and use of which we are now reclaiming in our language, our history, our dancing, our loving, our work, our lives."
— Audre Lorde
